Me and My OCD came into Effect at a Hospital Waiting Room – What would you Have Done?
My husband was having hip surgery and, for the first time (he’s had a number of operations Iin the past three years), his surgery time was in the afternoon.
There were a few women in the waiting room. They looked to be in their 60’s and I sat down next to them because they seemed interesting and I didn’t have a book with me.
The woman next to me had a huge cross around her neck and she just seemed so positive about everything. I mean, she saw the plus side of EVERYTHING!
We were all talking and showing pictures of our doggies. Their husbands were also going in for some kind of joint surgery. We were all together while the doctors came in and told us how our husbands were doing.
We all did lots of hugging and, even people who weren’t in our little group, were hugging and wishing us the best. It was truly exhausting but I had been too long with them to go sit somewhere else.
They thought it would be a good idea to do a prayer circle.
Then, the woman with the biggest Cross asked me if I liked her earrings which she had made herself and I said they were pretty. So she took them off and put them in my hand! “Here!” she said ” you can have these'”. I said ‘No; absolutely not! They’re too pretty to give away. Actually, they were really pretty with a blue stone and wire wrapped around it to look like an angel.
I think she expected me to take out my earrings right there and put hers in right away. But I couldn’t!! I have germ OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and I NEVER try opened cosmetics on my face nor do I try on on earrings at department stores. At home I sanitize everything. Anyway, the angel earrings went right into my purse.
My germ phobia extends to bathrooms when I go shopping. I try to plan everything in order to not have to use a public bathroom.
This does not happen to me with family and friends’ places.
I have been this way pretty much since college.
As an aside: A friend tried out eyeliner at a department store that a saleslady said was brand new and she ended up with the worst eye infection that took forever to clear up.
So, I thought that I should sanitize them and wear them the next day. But, again, I just couldn’t. I knew that I was really upsetting her.
After we had all heard that our husbands were ok and in the recovery Room, we each went our own way. Only to find out all the husbands were on the” Joint” Floor and, not only would I run into them in the hall, but also in Physical Therapy 2X a day.
On the second day, she saw that I still hadn’t put on the earrings and, was it my imagination or did she seem kinda angry at me?
Anyhoo… by the third day, she didn’t even react and barely talked to me. I know I should have at least acknowledged them, but I was so worried about my husband that I just wasn’t thinking that I should at least have given her a card.
I really can understand her feelings. I’ve also given people gifts and I never get acknowledged for them and never see it on the person. But, come on…..this operation was so stressful and I wasn’t thinking clearly.
Also, I am allergic to nickel and I couldn’t take a chance on her earrings. So there!
Anyway, the hugs stopped. The upbeat patter was no more.
She left with just a wave.
I feel really bad about it.
I know it’s my OCD and it makes me angry, but I am unable to do anything about it.
I should really have gotten a card since I was in that gift shop about 3 hours.
Anyhoo……..Would you have gone ahead and put the earrings on?
Am I just being Crazy with my OCD?
Seriously, what would you have done?