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Hi everyone!

Welcome to the new home of Haute Curvy Woman for Plus Sized Women and Teens.

A PLUS SIZE FASHION, BEAUTY & LIFESTYLE BLOG

Whether you go by the name ‘Plus-Size’, ‘voluptuous’, ‘Curvy’ or just ‘Fat’, this is your site for the most sophisticated, up-to-date fashionable styles and beauty.  We strive to seek out “the best of the best” to be found in order to “live our lives large”.

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So…pull up a chair, get some coffee and browse through our blog, beauty reviews, and much more.

We welcome all opinions and would love to hear about your favorites, your questions and your reviews.

Thank you so much to all who have been following me and Haute Curvy Woman since October, 2011 and to all my new followers.

Tovah

 

 

***(The beautiful model photo in the header is by the wonderfully talented Sean Cox Photography at seancoxphotography.com)

 

Today Marks One Month Since I Quit Smoking After My Husband’s Stroke

Today Marks ONE MONTH since My Husband and I Quit Smoking After He Had a Stroke.smoking2

When my husband had a stroke last month, we took it as a sign to change our ways. Prior to this, we smoked like there was no tomorrow; we ate like food was going to be taken away from us; we never exercised. Basically, we just led a very unhealthy, sedentary  lifestyle.

We were just kidding ourselves that we would never face the consequences.

This time, though, it stuck. (At least for a month.)

My husband is 21 years older than me and I never had to face the difference in our ages until 2 years ago when my husband had a cardiac bypass. Suddenly, the fact that I could actually lose him put me into an anxiety swirl that I never suffered from before in our 20 year marriage.

I KNEW that we’d been given second chances, even though we’d taken them for granted and I feared that it was about to catch up with us.

I never thought it was possible, but we ARE NOT SMOKING AT THIS TIME!

So, here’s the Good, the Bad and the Ugly OF MONTH 1 OF QUITTING:

THE GOOD

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1.  I don’t have mouth sores like I did last time that only went away when I started smoking again. (Truly, this happened. I even went to the dentist and an oral surgeon who said that I was just looking for a reason to start smoking again.)

2.  I don’t stink. I can take a shower, go everywhere and not feel like I’m smelling the place up. I really hated getting too close to people where they could smell that ashtray smell. I never used fragrance because I thought I would just smell like a smoker trying to mask it with fragrance.

One time, in Chicago, I was  taking the bus to get to  a job interview and I asked the woman next to me, “May I ask you a question?” and she said ‘sure’. So I asked her if I smelled of cigarettes, since I’d taken a shower and washed my hair etc. She said “As a matter of fact, you do smell of cigarettes.” I said ‘thank you very much”.

3.  My teeth are getting whiter, however, there is a strange coating of something on them. Feels really weird, like I need to keep brushing them.

4.  I’m not so out of breath all the time.

5. Sometimes I actually forget that I was a smoker.

6. I have so much extra money I don’t feel guilty spending what I used to spend on smokes.

7.  Quitting with my husband.

8. Dentyne Ice has been the best gum for non smoking.

9. I’ve only gained 4 pounds since I quit.

10.  I’ve discovered the great website, quitnet.com.

11.  Food tastes AMAZING!

THE BAD

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1. It’s very difficult (still) to find a way to relax.

2. I still miss  the whole process of getting a cig, lighting up and having that first puff.

3. I haven’t done enough research on ‘making the quit stick.’

4. I’m quitting with my husband (It’s good and bad).

5. I’m very tired. That cigarette acted as a motivator in getting me going.

6. Shopping way  too much online and at stores.

7. I do not by any means feel safe at this time in saying that I’m a nonsmoker. I’m taking it, literally, hour by hour.

THE UGLY

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1.  I don’t understand why, but I have acne. Real acne. Where did that come from? Is it all the toxins leaving my system? My skin is both oily and dry at the same time. Hopefully, this is just a temporary problem.

2. I really feel like I’ve got something growing on my teeth

3. I can’t wait to get to my Sister in Law’s house where she smokes and I can just smell the smoke. Yes,,,I am that bad.

4. I had my blowout yesterday:  I had decided that the first month, I would only concentrate on not smoking and forgetting about my diet. Thus yesterday, I had the pizza, etc. that I crave so much.

5. I really crave Vitamin C. I will just have glass after glass of it and it’s full of sugar.

WHAT HAS WORKED FOR ME:

Having lots of gum around.

Ice Cold water available

Going on Quitnet, which now calculates me at:

Cigarettes not smoked:  878

Lifetime Saved:  6 days, 16 hours

Money saved:  $282.75

I wish that I could say that I’ve quit for good. I can’t say that. Everytime the phone rings, I’m searching for that cigarette pack; after every meal, I’m looking for the cigarette, and just sitting around watching tv, I want that cigarette.

So, it’s still a battle right now, but I think it will be worth it,

I bet you’re suprised, Al.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Swimsuits For All: Review On My New Swimming Suit

I love Swimsuits for All. Their Plus Size swimsuits are Quality at Its Best, Great Fashion, and Wonderful Comfort.

This is the Swimsuit I bought from Swimsuits For All and I am in love with it.  It is definitely too small in the bust, however I refuse to send it back. I WILL make this swimsuit work.

The sizing error was my fault and not theirs.

I love the black and white, love the side piping and I WILL LOSE THE WEIGHT TO BE ABLE TO ACTUALLY LOOK GOOD IN IT.

Xtra Life® Lycra® Aquabelle Black Zip Front Plus Size Swimsuit

Here’s the suit on the Swimsuit For All site:

Xtra Life® Lycra® Aquabelle Black Zip Front Plus Size Swimsuit

Xtra Life® Lycra® Aquabelle Black Zip Front Plus Size Swimsuit

 

Here’s me in one size too small (size 22). I really worried about it being too big, but I HAD TO GET this swimsuit and I was so afraid that they would run out. I actually thought that maybe I should get a size 20, since I usually wear between a 20-22.

(I’m sorry about the lettering; that is not part of the suit; just my site logo,)

Here’s the Description:

Created with Aquabelle’s exclusive Aquatex nylon fabric made with Extra Life® Lycra®.  Aquatex swimsuits last 5-10 times longer in chlorinated environments.  Aquatex retains color and shape, and provides high UV protection. For more description, go HERE.

Since a Size 22W  usually is a little bit big on me,  all I can say is that this suit probably runs a little small, especially in the bust.

I am absolutely NOT sending it back. This is my favorite swimsuit ever!

This sells for $42.00 (down from $56.00.)

Check out their collection! You’re going to love it!

LIMITED TIME ONLY:  25-50% OFF sitewide; Expires 4/22; Exclusions Apply.

**I have received no money nor compensation in any form for this review. This was bought with my own money and reflects only my experience and opinion.

 

 

Dog Lovers Will Understand Being Held Hostage By Their Dogs

I haven’t Written in Awhile, as This has Been a Rather Sad Time, So I thought I’d Try to Get Back in the Mood by Talking about My Dog, Lulu!

I have a Shi-tzu named Lulu whom we had gotten when our Lhasa was about 18 years old. His name was Lash and we had to make the horrible decision to say ‘good-bye’ to him. His quality of life had just really gone downhill.

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Lash had never been an easy dog. He wanted things when he wanted them and that was what he got.

When we lived in Chicago, a friend came from the East Coast with her dog and we left the 2 dogs together while we went out to eat. When we came back, Lash had not allowed that poor dog to get off the tiles in the kitchen and into the living room with the carpet. If I remember correctly, that dog was also blind in one eye.

We were not going to make the same mistake with Lulu. She would be a good dog; an obedient dog; a dog that possibly did tricks.

Well, Lulu came into our lives so sick with parasites, etc. that we would do anything to get her to eat, Well, it’s been 5 years and she still thinks she deserves to be treated in that same way.

After that, we decided to take her to doggie training. That was an abject failure as she wouldn’t do anything at all. All we got out of that $100.00 was her learning to give us a ‘high five’.

So, she holds us hostage…every day.

MORNING ROUTINE

1.  Daddy gets up earlier than Mommy so she lets Daddy go about his day until Mommy gets up. Lulu then wants to be  rewarded with a ‘good girl’ simply for making it through the night. (A ‘good girl’ is some kind of treat for her. She loves Pup-peroni, but we try to limit those and go with healthier alternatives.)

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2.  She finishes said pup-peroni and she then wants off the bed and fresh water WITH ice cubes. There MUST be ice cubes or she won’t drink it from her stainless steel bowl.

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3.  She then returns to HER bed where there must be fresh chicken cut up into small pieces and placed on her bed (which has an old shirt of Daddy’s on it) for her to nibble on. There is a 50/50 percent chance of whether she touches it or not.

4. Then its time for her to go outside. Our condo is on the 2nd floor and we put up a netting so she couldn’t fall through any of the vats. She weighs about 9 pounds. We installed a doggie door into our patio glass door, thinking that we won’t have to help her out or in anymore. Yet, we’re still  having to hold it open with our foot because her little nose gets sore if she has to push it by herself Also, she holds us hostage for a good girl. She WILL NOT come in until we reassure her that she’ll get a GOOD GIRL.

5.  She can’t stay out long because it’s sooo hot in this climate, but she will wear us down to get a ‘good girl’.

6.  She likes some playtime then. I throw one of her 1,000 toys for her to retrieve, which she does, but never drops so I have to tug on it with her bad teeth.

AFTERNOON ROUTINE

1.  This is actually the best time. She usually sits outside gazing on ‘her’ property.  It’s a golf course, so whenever anyone screws up and gets too close to the house, she barks, which I’m sure they appreciate very much.

2.  She likes an afternoon massage. She will very listlessly raise a paw-paw and I know she’s ready. I will rub her shoulders, her paw-paws and her back. Then she turns over so that I have complete access to her tummy,

3.  I usually like to work on the computer in the afternoon and she ‘torments’ me by constantly sitting, looking up at me and barking until she gets some attention.  We have a thing that buys us a little extra time by threatening her with “the bathroom’. So..it’s like, ‘Do you want to go to the bathroom? Do you WANT to go to the bathroom? She then runs under the couch to a place we can’t get to her. So the whole thing is an exercise in futility.

THE EVENING

This is the easiest time. My husband and I eat about 5:30 and Lulu is being pretty good. She doesn’t really beg for food or even ask for it. She doesn’t like beef and she only likes a little bit of bread with some gravy on it.

7:00 p.m. – She goes on the bed where my husband now massages her into a state of oblivion. She is ready now for her dinner, which must be on the bed. I fix her good quality kibble and drizzle water over it to get it soft. (She just had oral surgery and is missing a few teeth now). and put in on a little plate on her orange towel. I then spread it out so that she can easily get to it, what with her bad teeth and all.  Some times I try to hand-feed her to get her interested, though that rarely works.

She then tries to cover it up with the towel so that we can’t see that she didn’t touch it.

Once we fall asleep, somehow she goes back to the food and eats it.

I have never in my life seen a dog so ambivalent about food, Yet, she eats those treats like it’s her crack cocaine

Then….we start all over again.

The one thing I know is that dog lovers understand this perfectly

. Non-dog lovers just think we’re crazy.

 

 

 

DAY 10 OF NOT SMOKING AFTER MY HUSBAND’S STROKE

Day 10 of Not Smoking After My Husband’s Stroke and the Going Ain’t Easy!

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I was not planning on writing everyday about me and my husband’s efforts of quitting smoking.

However, I have a reader we’ll call ‘Al’ who seems to be particularly interested in my progress.

So, Al, this is for you.

Almost 3 days ago, I stopped the Nicorette gum as I realized that I only traded one form of nicotine with another. Plus, I ran into this woman at Walgreens that quit smoking but now, 10 years later, she’s really addicted to the gum. That gum ain’t cheap. Let me tell you. Also, I read that it’s pretty tough on your teeth and my teeth  are one of the things I have going for me.

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I am having a lot of trouble finding a way to relax. I know…take some deep long breaths. It’s not the same. Trust me. Do yoga….Yeah…right.  Drink water….ok, now what?

 

I know that things will get better, but for now, it’s still one day, one hour, at a time.

The amount of money that we are saving, between the two of us, is staggering. Yet, even that isn’t much of an incentive. I always used the excuse:  “IT’S MY ONLY VICE”!

Basically, it’s been three days that I’ve truly been nicotine free and I’m pretty crazed now.

Yet, I KNOW that this has to work. Not just for my husband’s sake, but for mine. I know my lungs are probably black and my voice is really crackly, but I had a doctor’s appointment today and for once I didn’t smell like a big cigarette.  When I had to see a doctor before, I’d shower, wash my hair, not smoke until after the appointment and they could still tell that I was a smoker.

So, by tomorrow, all the nicotine should be washed out of my system and I’m just down to the ‘using a cigarette as a crutch’ routine.

My husband just seems to be fine. He’s given away all his cigars and lighters.

I asked him to show me how to relax so he said, “sit in the chair and put your feet up”. So I did that, waiting for the inspiration to come from this wise leader. I kept waiting and waiting and waiting and finally I said…wth dude? That’s all you’ve got? He said ” yeah,,,sit on the chair and put your feet up”. Thanks a lot,  I could have gotten that info from watching a Lazy Boy commercial.

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So…that’s about it, Al.  Not in a great mood, but still trying!

 

 

7 DAYS SINCE WE QUIT SMOKING AFTER MY HUSBAND’S STROKE

I Cannot Believe that My Husband and I Have Quit Smoking For 1 Week Since His Stroke!

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It has by no means been easy, however, my husband and I are really trying not to irritate each other. We both need this to work.

We did a grocery shopping together today and we’re trying to veer more toward healthy choices since we’ve not been eating all that well. Too many carbs and sweets.

We’ve also been eating much more fast food than we’ve ever eaten before. I really haven’t felt much like cooking lately.

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So, during this week I can say that other than feeling more calm, I am not feeling any of the great benefits yet,

We are definitely not in the best mood and we’ve been sleeping alot.

We’ll try to do some swimming tomorrow since we’ve both got arthritis issues and this will be a great starting point.  UPDATE:  No Swimming.

I looked in my husband’s closet and couldn’t find his swimming suit, so we’ll probably have to buy one in the morning, not find one he likes and say ‘screw it’ about the swim.

Some of the acne is going away, but I gotta admit: I never thought I would get acne by quitting smoking.

I have to remember that it’s going to be quite awhile before I start really feeling good.

Which is why I believe that people go back to smoking. I don’t believe that, all of a sudden, you just feel great.

Sitting here chewing maniacally on gum will probably cost me a fortune in dentist bills.

THE BREAKDOWN:

THE GOOD  It’s so nice not worrying about being down to my last pack of cigarettes; the house smells better; I’m sleeping better; Realized that out of 20 cigarettes I probably really missed smoking only about 5 times a day.  I’ve only gained 1 pound.

THE BAD:  I really miss that first cigarette in the morning with coffee; after meals and while on the computer and reading. Wow! That’s alot, now that I think about it.

THE UGLY:  No great changes yet in my prison pallor ; Eating more sweets at night; Nicorette is really expensive. So it’s kind of a wash at this point with the Nicorette and cigarettes.

So….that’s the first week and we’re still hanging in there!

Everyone has THAT TIME when it’s perfect to quit smoking and I hope this is OUR TIME!

UPDATE:

i’m getting canker sores again (much like the last time I tried to quit smoking). I’m not sure if it’s due to the Nicorette or just not smoking. Last time, it was so bad that I ended up smoking and the sores went away.  I’m really not looking for a way to start smoking but I was particularly interested in this site:  http://www.mouthulcers.org/messages.php?thread=249.  So about 2:00 p.m., I stopped taking Nicorette and started washing my mouth out with salt water and taking B12. (Just a couple of ideas I’ve gotten from the above site.)

It’s obviously a big problem for smokers.  I am still very much in in favor of quitting and I possibly may just have to see how it goes.

Have any of you previous smokers had anything like this? What worked?

Tovah

 

 

 

DAY 6 OF QUITTING SMOKING SINCE MY HUSBAND’S STROKE

Day 6 of Quitting Smoking and Went Out to Eat to Celebrate!

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So….after a day of doing nothing, we made plans to go out to P.F. Chang’s, which is one of the only good restaurants in this town.

We actually got up, showered, put on some clean clothes and went out.

At P.F. Chang’s, we shared the lettuce wraps, which I know EVERYBODY in the world eats except for the really cool people who order some esoteric food.

We moved on to my husband ordering some sweet and sour thing and me ordering a meat dish that I couldn’t read the description because I’m too vain to wear glasses. I just hoped it didn’t have cilantro because that stuff really makes me sick.

Anyhoo, we started with the lettuce wraps and my husband used the lettuce like a little bowl. I tried doing it THE RIGHT WAY but then just gave up. Same thing with the chopsticks.

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Then we asked the waitress how hard her job is because I was fired from a waitress job the first day. Actually, it was like the first 3 hours. So, she agreed that it was a tough job and we really liked her.

Our entrees came and I was eating in a way that, I believe, my husband found repulsive.  I gave up on the chopsticks and just ate and ate and ate. When I caught his eye, he seemed fairly disgusted because he left food on his plate. After I’d gotten my fill, I made them box my leftovers up to eat while watching Survivor tonight.  For some reason, watching that show while eating is just so much fun.

Anyway, my husband (very wisely) did not talk about the massive  amount of food I ate.

EVERYTHING TASTED SO GOOD.

Your taste buds really do taste things differently after you quit smoking and so that is definitely a check in the PRO Section ot Not Smoking,

Once we got home, I realized that I was running out of Nicorette. Do I run to Walgreens at night or try to make my 3 pieces last? It reminded me of when I’d run out of cigarettes.

I didn’t want to go back out, so I was very careful with the 3 pieces of gum I had and the 3 pieces I found in the cabinet.  DANGER AVERTED.

So, what can I say?  Not much more has happened. However, after tomorrow, my weeklong anniversary, I will start doing some mild exercise. Perhaps walking Lulu.

In the meantime, I continue to sleep a lot and drink lots of water.

Thanks,

Tovah

Resources:

10 Overlooked Reasons to Quit Smoking by WebMD.

 

Modcloth for the Perfect Easter/Passover Outfit

Easter and Passover are Coming Up and I’d Like to Introduce you to Modcloth for Plus Sizes BUT hurry up as there is a Great Sale going on Right now!

 

1.  See You Real Saloon Skirt

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Description: A back-zipped skirt that’s striped with heart-touched borders and patterned with dapper belongings, this pleated bottom is as eye-catching as it is edgy.

This great skirt has the following sizes available:  XS, S, M, 1X, 2X, 3X.

This is on sale for $47.99.

2.  Sock Hops and Dreams Top in Black

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I am so going to buy this top.

Description:   …tie the open back of this retro top under your ponytail. The white piping along this black tee’s rounded collar coordinates with your poodle skirt and the middle sections of your saddle shoes, while its puffed short sleeves are cute and cool to swing in…

This top comes in sizes XS, 1X, 2X, 3X, 4X and sells for $37.99.

3. Extraordinary Executive Dress

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Description:  this navy dress by Myrtlewood! This savvy sheath – a ModCloth exclusive – showcases the best practices in professional fashion with its midi hem, flexible fabric, and white, bow-topped collar…

This stunning dress comes in sizes XS-4X.

It sells for $109.99.

4.  Medium Format Memory Tunic in Monochrome Zigzag

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Description:  zoom in on this black-and-white tunic in that group shot, and admire yourself in its sensational zigzag print. The coordinating belt and generous short sleeves of this semi-sheer top pair perfectly with slim jeans, ankle boots, and a pendant necklace for a picturesque look.

This tunic comes in sizes S, M, 3X, 4X and costs $39.99.

5.  Country Music Ed Cardigan

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Description:  This ModCloth-exclusive, soft-red cardigan by Bea & Dot is a wonderful accompaniment to your ensemble. This button-up sweater, with its embroidered peonies, harmonizes perfectly with your worn-in cowboy boots and denim skirt – a look that’s cute and country-chic.

This comes in sizes XS-4X and costs $69.99.

THIS IS A GREAT TIME FOR MODCLOTH:
Shop ModCloth’s fave spring styles & get 20% off! Hurry, ends soon.

 

 

 

**I do have an affiliation with Modcloth whereby I make a small commission on the items sold.  All recommendations and opinions are, as usual, my own.

DAY 5 OF QUITTING SMOKING AFTER MY HUSBAND SUFFERED A STROKE

Day 5 of Not Smoking and This is the Worst Day of All!

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It is now 5:00 p.m.  I haven’t showered, brushed my teeth or washed my face.

I woke up, had my coffee and my nicorettes and, outside of cooking dinner (A really strange tortilla dish that I found online and will never make again), I have done nothing.

Well…not quite nothing as I started reading a new book which is really pretty good.

My husband thought we should test out our new taste buds at a great restaurant, but the thought of getting washed up and getting dressed seemed like it  would just take too much energy.

I’m not having that ‘getting well’ feeling yet, nor is my skin suddenly flawless (Come to think of it, my skin actually looks worse) and my non-existent hair shiny.

I hope that tomorrow I’ll feel more like moving, but I don’t know.  The last couple of days I’ve just been getting up, having some coffee and going back to the bedroom to read.

I hope tomorrow is a better day.

Tovah

Additional Resources:

smokefree.gov 

 

 

 

Day 4 of My Quitting Smoking After My Husband Had a Stroke

Day 4 of My Quitting Smoking is Like Being on Tightrope

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I feel on a tightrope because at this point it would take very little for me to get that pack of cigarettes.

I know that to rid yourself of bad vices, you’re supposed to follow the HALT rule:  Never let yourself get HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY, or TIRED.

HUNGRY: I’m really not any more hungry than when I smoked. However,  happily I really am getting a lot less hypoglycemia by not smoking, whereas, before, the hypoglycemia would come on so quickly that I’d have to get some sugar into myself right away.

ANGRY:  My anger level is definitely down. I think I’m just too tired to fight, actually.

LONELY: i HAVE MY HUSBAND WITH ME FIGHTING THE FIGHT.

TIRED:  I am very, very tired. I inevitably have to take a nap in the afternoon. I’m just not getting that jolt that I used to get from a cigarette (though it was short-lived like eating a candy bar.)

I am so associated with my cigarettes and found so many ways of sneaking in cigarettes during the day that I seem no better than the addict (fill in your own drug addiction) always on the hunt for the drug.

I do realize that this is just so important. My husband gave away all his cigars and special lighters that lit even in a blizzard,.

All I DO know at this point is that I will not be the one to break down.

I can’t say that I’m being the giving one, because the fact is:  I have high blood pressure, I have high cholesterol, I’m very overweight.

I don’t know how I will face the inevitable health crisis, but maybe I’ll get some of these problems under control.

TOVAH