Heaven Help You If you Ever Get Hurt in This Country

My Husband Fractured His Knee and the Health Care System is Making Our Lives Miserable, if not Dangerous

wheelchairFor the last couple of years, my husband’s legs had been getting weaker.

After 2 knee replacement surgeries and 2 hip replacement surgeries, the pain and the weakness  were getting worse.

We went for shots and anything that would help alleviate some of the pain. Nothing was working.

There were a couple of falls over the months and we got them x-rayed and he would take it easy and things seemed, if not perfect, not too terrible. He was still walking, although with a pronounced limp. Eventually, he needed to use a walker.

However, about 6 weeks ago, my husband took a horrible fall where his knees completely went to his sides.

The fall was horrible.

I went to grab him and my back instantly made a cracking sound and I could not straighten up, The pain was excruciating and I started screaming.

We called the paramedics and they immediately took him to the hospital. After being in the ER,  the doctors said that the knee looked fine. He just needed to rest it.

He continued to have extremely weak legs and fell again and this time there was no question that something was extremely wrong.

This time, when the paramedics took him to the hospital, they took a ct scan and, it turned out, that his knee was fractured. He spent about 3 days in the hospital.

They placed him in an immobile brace and his leg had to be kept right in front of him in a wheelchair and he could not even step on his other foot.

He was completely dependent on others now for everything from going to the bathroom to getting dressed. This is particularly difficult for him as he is so proud.

We got him into a rehab and after 2 weeks of keeping completely off both legs, while he was resting his legs, this 5 star rehab would let him lay in bed for a half hour after he used the call light when he needed to use the bathroom. When I went to visit him, he would still not be dressed by 11:00 in the morning. It was clear they were doing the minimum.

With no “heads up”, after two weeks they said I needed to find a new place for him within 5 days and it would be on our dime. Why didn’t they tell me that in the beginning so I could begin looking for a good place for him? They gave me a piece of paper with about 100 places on it and was told they were not allowed to recommend any place.

During this time, we got in with an orthopedic doctor at the medical center and he took x-rays and said that it did look like he was healing. He was put in more of a mobile brace and we felt very heartened.

I found a broker who helps find rehab and nursing places that have a good reputation and are licensed, etc.

He suggested a group home as a good alternative for my husband rather than a nursing home to rest and begin his rehab with physical and orthopedic therapy. The broker said that it would be nice because it would be just like living in his own home and he would get nice meals and it wouldn’t be like a hospital at all.

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The idea sounded great.

It was a little expensive, but we both thought it was well worth it.

We had a few days to check out a few places, get his medications  in order, get a TB test and set up transfer which the rehab has nothing to do with and we had to do on our own and pay for ourselves.

I chose the place that was immaculate, promised great care and there was a lot of room to move around in.  He would also have his own room. The room was adorable, with nice inviting lamps and cute comforters on the bed, a big recliner and his own tv.

On the day of the move, we were told he would be picked up between 10:00 – 11:00 a.m. We finally got him transferred (5 hours late) and into his new home.

When I looked closer this time, I noticed that the bed was pretty small and my husband is a fairly large man. I was worried about his rolling off the bed and voiced my concerns.

They said that they would let pull the large recliner up to the bed.

Sure enough, he did fall and they found him on the floor the next morning. I wanted to pull him out that day, but he insisted on staying.

He slept most of that day and I wasn’t concerned.  I attributed it to his traveling and long day beforehand.

The next day, he was extremely tired again. I brought more clothes over and other things to make him more comfortable.

When I visited, they told me all was well, but he was very tired.

That night, after waiting all day to hear from him ( I didn’t want to wake him up),  I kept trying to call him on his Cell and there was no answer. I called the Home at 4:00 p.m. and they said he was fine but tired. I asked for him to be put him on the phone. He sounded extremely disoriented almost like he’d had a stroke.

I asked to be put back on with the group home director and I asked why he sounded so bad and they said he was tired and I just said “bull”. I know my husband. Something is very wrong.”

I ran to the group home about 5 pm and when I got there he was extremely pale and confused. He didn’t know the date or month.

At that time they chose to tell me that he could barely lift his arm at lunch and food was falling out of his mouth.

They never called me. I will never forgive them for that!

I told them they had to call an ambulance and they were arguing with me about whether it was necessary and I said, “absolutely”.

They then took out their blood pressure cuff and his blood pressure was extremely low. They said he now had a fever of 99 degrees. Why hadn’t they done any of this checking before?

The paramedics came and told him he needed to be in the hospital.

When we got tot the hospital, they took his temperature and it was 102 degrees and he was dehydrated. He had a very bad bladder infection, which I’m sure was brewing for quite some time.

The home wanted to make sure I wasn’t blaming them for this.

The fact was that the Home did not call me when it was clear he was so very ill that he couldn’t even feed himself.

My husband is 20 years older than me and not in good health. I believe that there was a good chance that he would not have made it through the night.

He’s now back in the hospital.

This time, I’m ready for them.

I told them to get me a social worker immediately. I said I need a place for my husband to go when he gets out of the hospital. He can’t come home until he can walk.  I also am having a great deal of trouble walking myself and cannot hold him up.

I said,  “Don’t pull this crap of waiting until the last day and giving me 24 hours to find a place for him to get rehab”.

Within an hour a Social Worker was in the room.

As it is, we’ve e already lost over a month of help that he desperately needed.

So, this is basically the run around we’ve been getting and my husband has good insurance.

I am more than frustrated and I am sick of trying to put this all together on my own. I am not a social service agency. Where are these people who are supposed to help us? My husband worked hard his whole life and this is how he’s being treated when he finally needs some help.

I just want you to know that you have to be an advocate for your loved one. No one will look after them like you will.

UPDATE:  IT WORKED! My husband, as of last night, is in one of the best rehab hospitals in the city and he’s happy and I’m happy and, if all goes well, within a month, he will be back home with me.

Have you experienced anything like this?

Tovah

Additional Resources:

Being an Advocate for your Loved One – National Caregivers Library

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Essie Does it Again; Gorgeous Nail Polish

The Essie Nail Polish Color, ON THE LIST, #210, from the Gel Couture collection is the most gorgeous tangerine coral color.

I have never worn this nail color without getting compliments.

‘On the List’ is darker and more vivid than the name leads you to believe.

I know that this is a little late for a summer color, however, my camera wasn’t working right and I really didn’t want to just use a stock photo.

Still, there’s still time in the summer and don’t forget all those great vacations and cruises to go on.

So…here it is:

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(As I look at this pic, that middle finger probably could have gotten a little bit more attention, but what the heck….I still got compliments on it.)

The one thing I regret is using it with the old Essie ‘All In One’ 3 way glaze.

Not only do I hate the small brush, it just doesn’t go on well at all, which is surprising for Essie.

The best thing to do is to buy the duo:  Essie Gel Cotoure Kit, which comes with the Top Coat, which formulation works just so much better with a much better brush.

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This sells for $18.50 at Walgreens.

Details

Limited edition two-piece kit for gel-like perfection.

  • Our 1st curve-hugging color brush
  • Up to 14 days of wear
  • Instant gel-like shine
  • No UV lamp needed
  • Easy removal

I think you’re going to love this color as much as I do.

Happy Shopping!

Tovah

 

 

Boscia: A Beauty Review

My Review of the Great Skincare Line Boscia

For a long time live been getting samples of the Boscia Detoxifying Black Cleanser from Sephora and I just threw them into the great pile of “to be eventually tried.”

I was intrigued when I heard that Boscia is one of the world’s first preservative-free, botanically based skin care lines so I dug it out and tried it.

I went with the Detoxifying Black Cleanser just because it sounded different.

Believe me when I say that the very next day I ordered the full size. I was that impressed.

 

You get 1.7 fl oz for $30.00.boscoa cleanser

True, not a lot of product for the price, but boy is it worth it.

Solutions for:
– Pores
– Dullness and uneven texture
– Oiliness

What it is formulated WITHOUT:
– Parabens
– Sulfates
– Phthalates

True, not a lot of product for the price, but boy is it worth it.

Out of 1969 reviews on Sephora, it received just over 4 out of 5 stars.

You pump it out and it comes out jet black and is just so nice and warm and comforting. It feels sooo good on your skin.

Believe me, I have tried many, many of the skin care lines and this is now my favorite.

After I received this, I tested it for about a week to make sure there were no breakouts There were none and my face looked really bright.

I then bought the Sake Balm Moisturizer.

Sake Balm Bounce Moisturizer to Hydrate and Brighten

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This jar contains 1.75 oz of product and sells for $46.00.

Solutions for:
– Dryness
– Dullness and uneven texture
– Loss of firmness and elasticity

What it is formulated WITHOUT:
– Parabens
– Sulfates
– Phthalates

This received 4 stars out of 177 reviews on Sephora.

It has a rather different consistency. It’s not quite a gel, yet it goes on like one. Usually, I don’t like gels, but this goes on very smoothly.

You only need to use very little of it.

These two products together just give my face so much brightening that I don’t even want to put makeup on over it.

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I really think that you will love these. There are several products to this line and I intend to try as many as I can.

Next on my list is the cult-favorite Luminizing Black Mask:

An innovative peel-off mask that helps boost skin clarity and minimize the appearance of pores. Removes dirt and impurities, absorbs excess oil and reveals a healthy, glowing complexion. “Peel to reveal pore-perfected skin with the trendsetting Black Mask!”

I don’t think you’ll be disappointed in Boscia.

Happy Shopping!

Tovah

Sephora.com – Boscia

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**All products were bought with my own money and I was not compensated in any way for this review.

Alopecia: What has finally worked and it’s So Affordable

Alopecia: My 4 Month Results Using a Hair Masque

After months of unknowingly using an ointment that had Propylene Glycol (I’m allergic to it) in it, my hair had reached its worst point in the history of my living with alopecia.

I had written  at the end of 3 months( http://www.hautecurvywoman.com/7/post/2016/06/alopecia-and-my-2-month-treatment-that-is-working.html/) that I had watched a Youtube on Coconut Oil Hair Therapy for hair growth and hair renewal.

I was amazed how much hair had grown back and how much length I had gotten.

The Youtuber gave out this recipe:

Here’s the Recipe:

1.) Coconut oil 16 TSP
2.) Apple Cider Vinegar 4 TSP
3.) Almond Oil 8 TSP
4.) 1 Whole orange

I have used it at least 2X a week from March 3, 2016 to the present time.

Here is the state of my hair at the beginning of this, about 4 months ago:

My alopecia at its worst

I finally went for a haircut last week just because there was so much length now and I thought it was putting too much pressure on my remaining hair.

You have to understand how difficult it is for someone with alopecia to go to a salon. It’s not easy.

Thus, I didn’t take any time into consideration, just called up a place close to my home and got in to see them that day. Actually within a 1/2 hour.

Usually, I ask for someone really experienced because my hair is VERY difficult to cut as  you can imagine.

They told me that Gina would be cutting my hair. She was just so adorable with great hair, of course.

I walked in and began my litany of requirements because I know what works and what doesn’t work for me; Keep bangs long, hair must not have layers, don’t wash first (it doesn’t lay right then) my face is too fat for regular ‘bob’……and on and on and on.

She said “don’t worry,  you’re going to look great”.

I just put it in her hands and we talked and she was just soooo sweet and when she was done, it was freaking fabulous!

Never had I had a haircut like that in my life.

Here is the latest pic of my hair coming back on top at the 4 month mark”.

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Here is my new haircut last week,  July 21, 2016 by Gina:

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My hair after 4 months of my hair masque

It’s pretty amazing!

She did such a great job and put me at ease and all I can do is hope she’ll be here forever because I know that no one could ever cut my hair like this again.

I have tried to tell people on alopecia boards about what had worked for me and I really wasn’t met with any interest.  I have nothing to gain by sharing what has worked for me, yet people seemed really skeptical.

What would I have to gain by writing what has worked for me? I’ve spent 1000’s of dollars on trying anything that would work only to find out that this $5.00 treatment a week brought my hair back.

Anyway, all my thanks to Gina, not just for the haircut, but for just being an absolute doll!

Gina, I hope that big boot is gone soon!

Warmly,

Tovah

 

Sanctuarie.com Has Just Been Added To My Top 17 Online Plus-Size Clothing Stores

Congratulations to Sanctuarie.com For Being In My Top 17 Online Plus-Size Clothing Stores!

I noticed that, for quite a while, I have been getting queries about Sanctuarie.com, so I decided to check them out again and couldn’t believe that I hadn’t added them before now..

I absolutely love this site for so many reasons:

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  1. The sizes go up to 9X
  2. There are always plenty of sales
  3. Even clothing not on sale is affordable
  4. They have one of the best measurement  tools I’ve seen for plus size sites.
  5. They have  the super elusive plus sized petites, Regular, and Tall

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They’ve got everything : From Swimming to formal to purses and shoes to tie-dye.

For the entire list of My Top 17 and more info on Sanctuarie.com, please go to http://www.hautecurvywoman.com/my-top-17-online-plussized-clothing-sites/.

HAPPY SHOPPING!

TOVAH

 

 

Julep Has The best Beauty Box Going with an Awesome Gift!

Julep, Known for Its Great Quality, Has a Great Monthly Beauty Box and, If You Sign Up Now, You get a Free Gift!

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If you’re unfamiliar with the Beauty Box, let me explain: Beauty Boxes have been around for about 2 years. They are boxes that companies put together that are an assortment of wonderful products. Each month, your personalized Beauty Box will include a variety of  product samples. You’ll get to try all different types of products, from hair care to skin care to makeup.  You know that, with Julep, you get quality. You take a quick quiz for Julep to be able to determine which beauty items you want to focus on. What a great way to try items out without spending a fortune.

I’ve tried a couple of these beauty boxes and I’m never disappointed.

Beauty At Your Doorstep

Experiment fearlessly with Julep’s monthly beauty box. Get on trend, full-size beauty or skin care products each month — curated just for you

You can: 

  • Build your own beauty box, or let us curate one for you.
  • 20% Off and Free Shipping  always, on everything. Plus, enjoy special offers and invites.
  • You Have Options
  • Skip any month you want, or send your box to a friend.
  • 100% Guaranteed
  • We are here to help. And if you don’t love it, cancel any time.

 

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FREE GIFT WITH SUBSCRIPTION:

Get a free Star Spangled 8-piece gift when you join Julep Beauty Box. Includes four patriotic polishes, a hot pink lip gloss, a peony pink blush stick, a bronze eyeliner, and white chevron nail decals. A $122 value.

 

 

 

 

 

Use code FIREWORKS at checkout

So…just hit on one of the links below and start receiving your Julep Beauty Box for yourself!

Star Spangled 8-Piece Beauty Gift

Gift of Julep Beauty Box

Warmly,

Tovah

 

**I am lucky enough to be an affiliate of Julep whereby I receive a small commission to help in the finance of this blog.

REVIEW: Melt Cosmetics Brings You That Absolutely Perfect Spring/Summer Lipstick

I have found the absolute perfect spring/summer lipstick from Melt Cosmetics.

My review is of the color ‘Summer’.

The colors of Melt Cosmetics are described as Ultra Matte. Bold. Radioactive. They are also in some of the most unique colors you may have ever seen.

MELT COSMETICS IN ‘SUMMER’ LIPSTICK

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I’m sure you’re noticing the horrible photoshop I used on myself below. I started trying to cover my freckles and then my face got too pale and then I thought if I just did photoshop all over the face, it would even out the whole face. Anyway, long story short, it looks pretty bad and I have no more time to spend on this. My face just looks like it takes up 1/3 of my body and kinda looks like Mr. Potato Head.

However, I did nothing  with the lips. No liner or primer or photoshop was used. It is really just a beautiful peachy pink color.

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You can make it as thick or thin as you like.

I love this lipstick;  however, I really like matte lipsticks, which a lot of people don’t care for.

There is a definite pull to it and you have to be very careful or it would be easy to pull the lipstick out of the container.

I used to use the color ‘Vegas’ from Cargo Cosmetics for years and I had scooped up as much as I could when I heard it was becoming discontinued. I have finally gone through all of my stash. I’d even picked some up on ebay. Alas,  It’s gone to the great lipstick in the sky.

 

I was on the journey for that perfect coral/pink lipstick for years.  THIS IS IT!

I really like to use it, also, as a primer when I add my brighter lipsticks.

You can definitely make it more glossy with lip balm or lip gloss.

Melt has 18 different lipstick colors and the cost is $19.00. 

Some are already sold out. (However are being restocked).

They also have a Nood Collection of 4 nude colors together for $64.00 that look sooo gorgeous!

As soon as I tried out ‘Summer’, I immediately ordered another one, as I was sure that they would run out very quickly.

These colors are going to blow you away.

Extra points to Melt Cosmetics for being cruelty free.

HAPPY SHOPPING!

Tovah